Dear Mr. Broken, I just wrote about this in my blog entitled: I am in and out of relationships. It is a tough balance to try and be somewhere between bitter and aware. Sounds like you may be a little bitter; of course this happens after being hurt so many times-- but you can't let it hold you down. One of the biggest secrets in the world is the strength of vulnerability. Vulnerability requires a balance of resilience, awareness, and compromise. If you learn to be a little more vulnerable, yes you may get hurt again, but with the awareness, resilience and compromise, you will bounce back better than before. Always remember low risk, low reward. High risk, high reward. Don't miss out on your reward going low on yourself. Best, The Normal Anomaly

Dear KB, Coming to terms with what you not only like sexually but your actual sexuality is a hard thing to do. What I will say is that anything you have to hide from people, you are subconsciously trying to hide from yourself. Try and be vulnerable and let those things mentally and culturally go! As a man, I know it can be hard to be vulnerable but there is power in vulnerability. Find someone and figure out your "happy". Before that, though, make sure you are ready to be lit up: no more hiding. Best, The Normal Anomaly

Dear Lonely Heart, I think it's important to recognize the issues that our community presents to middle aged people-- and by middle age I'm referring to the fact that if you are above 30, you have to do something outside of a proper moral compass to be considered "cool". So, don't fret. You are doing the right thing by not participating in those antics as an established person should. A couple pieces of advice I think is important to give is: 1. We accept the love, energy or relationships we think we deserve. What type of people are you normally interested in? What type of men are you reaching out too? What kind of energy are you putting out in search of love? I ask these things because it is likely, if you aren't making any connections, it's because you deserve more and everyone knows it except you. 2. You have got to find places where people that identify with you hang out. People like you don't go or sign in to the places you mentioned. Think about (nice) live music venues, church events, business networking mixers-- this is where you will find the caliber of men you are interested in. Best, The Normal Anomaly

Dear Heart, It's hard out here for a pimp. Lol. No, but serious. First, I would like to say it's interesting that you want the ones that "pay you dust" but the "love and care you give seem too much for one to handle." Let's see if I can break this down easy: If you explain to a person that you have two gallons filled with water and they will weigh 16 pounds once picked up, that gives them a chance to decide if they want to hold the water. Some people will pick up the water just because they're thirsty. Some will consider it and decide not to pick up the water. Some will consider it and actually pick it up. Others won't even let you explain. In other words, there are people that are too thristy or too self consumed to worry about what you are bringing to them. You should find those that will at least hear your greatness out-- whether they pick it up or not. I don't think you are your own worst enemy. I think it's a vicious cycle of someone after me that I'm not interested in is interested in me-- a cycle you continue by doing the same thing. I've learned a little introspection is a great idea. Best, The Normal Anomaly

Dear The Queen, First, I want to commend you on even having the courage to try and respect your daughter's issues. As the mother, it is difficult and a process of letting the child you birthed go. It is important that the child recognizes this. Some people met "her" as "her" and, potentially at times have a hard time. So, she should be a little more understanding that you have known "him" all their life and now have to reconfigure your mind. The real issue may be that she is still coming to terms with her newfound self. As a parent, don't be discouraged by the evolution of your daughter. You are and have done your best; the only thing you can do is give it time. Signed, The Normal Anomaly

Dear A Lady By All Means, I think there are many things that play on how possible it can be for a person to be in a relationship, but one thing I know is that there is definitely somebody for everybody. Just as anything else in life, it's a combination of opportunity, readiness, and cultivation. You have got to see it before you see it. Ask yourself: what am I currently doing to ready myself for the right type of guys to approach me? Am I dressing appropriately for the man of my dreams? Am I participating in things that would interest a person that I would like to date realistically? Most likely, at least some of those responses will not be yes. So, grow, network, and become the woman of his dreams for the man of your dreams and yes, [over] average you will get "a lot bit of that". Best, The Normal Anomaly

Dear TheMaleDoll, I think to some extent everyone has fantasized about someone that seemed like it wouldn't be possible to have- straight, gay, celebrity, female or otherwise. A lot of people like the unknown, including me. I think the best advice I can give you is what you should do depends on what you are willing to lose. If it's just sex, then all you have to lose is your pride if you come at him right-- or your teeth if you don't. If you are trying to date him, that can be a little trickier. Let's say he is attracted to you. Well, then you are going to have to deal with someone who is going to, at his own pace, become comfortable with himself. Because of this, you will likely be a secret, disattached from your friends (including your girlfriends) and allowing him to have sex with females for his sanity. In my opinion, if you are an out, gay male, it is no need to go into a closet for someone's comfort. By all means though, if it's a nut, be a squirrel. Signed, The Normal Anomaly