Cons of Being Considered "Masculine"

Masculinity, O masculinity. How we need thee.

Masc4Masc. No Fats, No Fems. Masc Only. Looking for a dude that's a dude. These are all things that we see and post on our geosocial applications. I, for one, believe and am okay that people have a preference. In having a preference, though, I think it is important to consider all implications. I mean, honestly, what exactly is masculine? We could easily simply define it as having characteristics of a man, but that isn't truly what we mean when we say "masculine", right? We want trade, a boy... No matter if our preference is insertive or receptive, we are always on a search for our partner to "pass".

As I was sitting around reading some material sent to me, I started to think as one who by the world's lens would most often be considered masculine, I know people see the pros in being masculine, but there are also cons, too. Here's a couple to think about.

Being masculine places you in a box.

To begin with, I hate boxes. Still, labels have their importance. The issue with being considered masculine is there are just certain things you can't say, do or wear. One of the words me and my friends use on the regular is "B*tch." I have a pretty raspy voice, so it still comes up in this baritone type voice, but I mean let's stop the BS, its definitely gay lingo. I had a little friend over-- fine young man-- and he spent the night. Like clockwork, my best friends call me back to back that next morning. We started laughing and going off like we always do and before I knew it that "B*********TTTTTCCCHHH" had came out. Now, he was definitely quite effeminate, but he looked at me all upside my head. Stuff like that gets to me: because I'm masculine, people want me to be careful of my actions.

Masculinity levels predict sexual experience.

You would think it would be the multitude of other things that could decide who's topping who like peen size, vibe, height, weight or preference; nope, it's most often about masculinity. You know we are not people who talk about sex until it happens. You come in and sit with the dude and in order to take it to a certain level of penetration, you gotta pass the masc test. This consists of hand motions, voice inflections,walk, tattoos (and their placements) and (if they are real smart) pictures hanging up in your place. No pass, no ass.

If you're masculine, you can't be emotional.

You can beat they ass, walk out, or not respond to their calls or text but don't you dare treat them like they are special and communicate your feelings. You do that and you're soft. After all, men don't cry. You have to represent a good arm piece and provider. Pause. Provider, I said (to a grown ass man). Ok, but you have to be able to take care of home, but never be there unless it's time to use that butthole. That's it. Provide, make appearances, wear snapbacks, and make the booty snapback.

This masculine thing is for the birds you know. Well, if masculinity is just represented by being trade. I am masculine and will continue to be in terms of career, education, essentials, a couple luxuries, and independence. I'd even go as far as to say my voice is naturally deep, I feel comfortable sagging in my basketball shorts in my free time and I have and love my tattoos. On the other hand, I'm not with this foolery of "being this look" for the attention. Well, that is except in hook-ups; you gotta play the role for the part. Lol

-The Normal Anomaly