#Effemiphobia: How do gays treat fems different? Part II

In delving into if feminine people are treated differently in gay society, I figured I already had the answer from my last interview with Depaul (click here to read it). Yes, for sure, feminine men are treated different in society, but now I had questions of why and how can we change this?

So, I decided to talk to one of the most entertaining but intimately disconnected communities that I know-- the drag community. See the interesting part about drag queens is they represent the best of entertainment and, in the mind of the community, can be seen as the most feminine representation of us before the transition into becoming a woman. Further, because most of them transition, we always kind of eradicate them from relationships.

One of the most popular and booked entertainers in the community here in Houston is a lovely person whose stage name is Foxy Munro. Foxy is known for her "old-style" drag even though she is a younger-- somewhat newcomer-- performer and, probably the most interesting thing is that she makes a pretty woman but a very attractive male also. She is one of the few performers that has never started to transition and really adores her "male-ness". She gets in her get up, does her thing and will most often come back out the dressing room as Brutas, his actual name. To Brutas, Foxy is a professional experience in which he is working on creating her a brand in which she can make this an actual career. When he was younger, he used to put it on and walk around the community because straight boys would get into that kind of thing, but now as he has been in a relationship for over 5 years, it is not necessary-- only when Foxy is necessary to be present for bookings, pageants or appearances.

So check out both Brutas and Foxy.

The Handsome Brutas

The Beautiful Foxy

Foxy has become almost a closeted fetish since it is such a major difference from Brutas. Brutas explains that there are people who are willing to be interested in Brutas whether romantically, friendly or hang out buds and love Foxy's entertainment, but when they figure out they are one in the same, they usually want her to choose one or walk away from them both. It's as if no one understands it as an art form anymore unless you are not a pretty female illusion, Brutas states. He told me that there has been insistence by the community for him to actually get on Hormone Relacement Therapy (HRT) to "get serious" since he is so fishy in drag. Still, he wants people to understand that he, in his mind, is an entertainer on stage-- much like an actor, singer or dancer; his costume just happens to be a woman. Because of his unwillingness to change his body, live his life as a woman or stop doing drag, he feels he is both overlooked on stages for the Black community and overlooked as a friend or dating potential, had he not been involved.

In the future the plan is to stay true to himself. He isn't an overly feminine guy, but understands that because of his chosen career he will never be able to live down being in drag. It's unfortunate because some of the most eligible people have done it before and are good at it-- and, if done right, can be a very lucrative career.

It goes to show you that it really doesn't matter how masculine you actually are; if you are connected to anything woman-like, you are pretty much outcasted from eligibility of any type of interaction in our community. Reminds me of this picture below of one of the sexiest gay men in the world (in my opinion) and most entertaining strippers who did drag years ago and was recently posted everywhere on social media. The conversations around something he did in his past seemed to negatively impact people's perceptions of him. I think it's sad. By the way, Suki: I still-- and will always-- love you! Lol

So, now that we understand more in depth how we actually treat "feminine" gays different, my last part will be how do we change it as a community. Stay tuned.

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- The Normal Anomaly